Slow Down

April 22, 2013

Listening to: Slow Down-Aly&AJ
Wise Words: “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” –Abraham Lincoln
Attention all girls, guys, geeks, dweebs, germs, and weirdos alike! I have two words for all you who are taking this dating-relationship-thing too far: SLOW DOWN! Seriously, you have your whole life ahead of you to get serious about the whole relationship aspect of life. Don't tie yourself down to the silly fascination of teenage love. Live life and experience the wonderful world God has placed at your disposal. There's more to you teenage years than worrying about being in a relationship. Why not live freely in the beautiful world of singleness? It's pretty sweet.

Okay, so I have never dated. It's okay, go ahead and laugh at me. In fact, I encourage it. But, I do understand that when you're in a relationship, it feels as though you've crash landed on a fluffy marshmallow cloud. I get it. It's cool.

Sometimes I find myself imagining what it would be like to have my feet swept out from under me. My imagination reveals to me pretty much anything I want, and in the sincerest form of perfection, too. But the practical realist inside of me can't help producing a more realistic version of teen love, or "puppy love". 

I have observed and know a lot of teens whose relationships 'did not last'. According to Dateable: Are you? Are They?: most of the time teen relationships never do. Pretty simple and straight forward, right? Yet, how can that be true when some teens end up marrying their highschool sweet heart? I can't really give you a surefire explanation-other than it was God who was in control over those situations. 

In most cases, however, teen relationships do not last. All teen relationships have an expiration date. Picture a jug of milk. Milk only lasts for a period of time before it is either used in your cereal or thrown out. This is essentially the same method to teen dating. When the girl or the guy is done with their boyfriend or girlfriend, they dump them and go in search for something better.

This is the reason why girls and guys should take the whole dating/relationship thing slowly. It's practical and will minimize the chances of getting severely hurt in the long run. Trust me, I've seen many a broken heart. Teen relationships are a messy business, especially when most teens don't fully understand sacrificial love and selflessness.

The code of conduct for love is this:  
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails" (1 Corinthians 1-13).
Do you honestly think that teenaged "puppy love" could ever give what's required to be successful-to truly give love? Teen love, to me, seems to go in the opposite direction. It's not kind, humble, calm, selfless, hopeful, persevering (if it's not working out, they move on!). Granted, relationships aren't all hunky-dory. They have their own set of faults. But, don't you think that teens should slow down and get to know each other person before making any rash decisions, and commit to something they might possibly regret? Even adults should do this. Lord knows there are plenty who need to be re-schooled on how to be in a relationship. 

And where do you thing teens learn their dating skills from? That's right-the last generation. Teens take their "Q" from adults. Monkey see, monkey do! 

Teen romances are overrated to an extent. Yes, some are blissful and end up working out. But the majority end up moving on, cheating, breaking up. It's always something. A crazy, kaleidoscopic Soap Opera! Something is always bound to go wrong. Why is this? Because teens go headlong into a realm they know nothing about. Love is not a toy or a childish pastime. It's a commitment, a sacrifice, a serious thing of the heart. Emotions are on the line, hearts of the chopping block. Teens so fully invest themselves in their little "puppy love" that in the end, when the whole world comes crashing down on them, they end up getting hurt. 

In some cases their sexual purity is gone. The connection they once had with their friends is zilch because they failed to note that they existed. The relationship that they did or might have had with their family has gone down the tube. And their grades, school activities-practically their whole life-revolved around someone who ended up hurting them two weeks later. 

So, my advice is this: to avoid getting hurt, take the whole dating thing slowly. Be "just friends" and enjoy the company of the other person for who they are.  Don't try to amp things up by being promiscuous, or revving up than engine to get things moving faster. Take the hands off approach. Be good friends for a long time, then you can, if you feel comfortable, move to phase two: holding hands.

Black and White Serenity

April 12, 2013

God grant me the serenity 
to accept the things I cannot change; 
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time; 
Enjoying one moment at a time; 
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; 
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it; 
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life 
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

you found me

April 11, 2013

The LORD sustains them on their sickbed and restores them from their bed of illness. (NIV)                                                                                                    Psalm 41:3 
I haven't blogged in a while. Here's why: When you mature and grow in your spiritual walk and then talk all your problems over with others and the Lord, things seem so minuscule in comparison to what life and love and the Lord has to offer. You run out of things to say. Your mind feels freer that it has felt in a long time. You don't live online in this cyber world anymore. You actually have the energy and the drive to live a life outside of the blogging world and away from pent up feelings that have often left you numb and emotionless. 
It's amazing the relief and pure joy I have received through the healing that I have experienced through the Love of God. The healing is so pure and so deep that I can feel it with every breath I take. It's unimaginable extacy!

Where would I be without the loving Grace and Strength of my God? Still in the depths of despair.

If you all remember-not last year, but the three years before-I struggled with an eating disorder EDNOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified). It was a scary, emotional, and tragic time for me as I learned how to deal with my emotions, transition from child to adult, and face my fears of life head on. 

I didn't want to grow up. I wanted to forever stay in the comfort zone under the safety of my mother's skirt-tail. I wanted to be cuddled, consoled, loved, safe, and not have to have a worry in the world. 

I was scared of the unknown. Of what was yet to come. And even the past haunted me with memories that I often wanted to forget, but somehow couldn't bring myself to do just that-forget, forgive, love, be happy, have joy in my heart, enjoy life, and bask in the comforts and blessings of Christ. 

Fear had a tight hold on my heart, soul and mind. I was it's prisoner. A slave to fear. Dead to love, hope, faith, and happiness. I spent many a day trying to purge myself of these unwanted feelings, whether they were happy ones or sad ones. They didn't feel right to me. And I didn't want them inside me. They were UFOs inside my body. I needed them out and away from me. I didn't want to feel. I wanted to sulk and hate. 

But, in the midst of all that anger and hate that I despised so much-along with so many other feeling-wanting to bottle it all up inside, He found me. He got to me. He saved me. The Lord works in mysterious ways. Sometimes His ways are noticeable and other times His ways just come softly. And in many instances, His ways came softly to me in the form of guiding me to the right doctors, diagnosis, treatment, and in the building of my faith. 
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
                                                                    1 Peter 5:7
While I cannot profess to have the faith of a tall oak tree, I do like to think that my having a childlike faith has enabled me to put forth the abundance of my faith into whatever situation I am in. I am not all-knowing, all-powerful, blameless, sinless, nor am I perfect. But I believe that God does put us through trials and tribulations to refine us and make us better than our former selves. That is, only if we choose to heed His warnings, learn from the lessons, and obey His Word. 

It's such a blessing to be alive and living in this world today. Coming from where I was for three years to where I am now has been no small feat. It's been a wild and crazy ride. But well worth the wait. Worth the hardship. Worth each and every milestone that I have traveled on. 

And through all the trials and tribulations that I have conquered and chosen to allow to affect me and penetrate my heart, I have been blessed beyond my imagination! I have a loving family. A wonderful job. I work with AMAZING people. I am enjoying school and am meeting wonderful people on campus. And I am now in a relationship with a top-notch guy. What more could this daughter of the King ask for? Not much. :D 

family ties

April 10, 2013

"Family Ties are precious threads, No matter where we roam, They draw us close to those we love, And pull our hearts toward home." 

Author: Unknown
A very spur of the moment I did with my family while my Great Uncle and Great Aunt came to visit my Grandpa.

authentically, me

I have always dreamed of doing seeing the world and going on crazy, out-of-this-world adventures. I am not necessarily a danger-seeker. Nope. Not me at all. Just a girl who has the urge to have a thrilling revelation and adventure in her life. I have lived far too long in the shadows of my musty Hobbit hole. It's about time I got out and enjoyed the sun.

Everyone says that I am an old lady at heart, because I "appear" to be a home-body. But things are not always what they appear, because deep down, I am a fun loving girl who is up to trying anything at least once, and is looking forward to what the Lord has in store for me!

Here's a few of my favorite quotes:
'The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.' -Eleanor Roosevelt

'You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' -Eleanor Roosevelt

Grassmere Zoo 2013

March 17, 2013

I has so much fun yesterday at the Grassmere Zoo in Nashville. It's a semi small zoo, but packed with beauty and fun! I went there with my boyfriend to celebrate the last day of Spring Break. I don't think there could have been a better person to spend the day with, honestly. 

I drove to the zoo, with my BF in the passenger seat giving me directions. He's a hoot to be around, even when he's all serious-like. We made it to the zoo, which was a miracle on my behalf, because I had never driven so far from home before. I know, sounds awfully lame, but it's true! 

I was super excited about going to the zoo, so much so, that my BF said he was beginning to wonder about my sanity. That goofy goober! But the day was fantastic, and I had a blast with my BF.

Fall Creek Falls

March 15, 2013

Getting up early is something I can do. I am an early bird. I usually get up at 6:00 and am up and going from then on out. Yesterday was no different. In fact, I was so elated, I got up at 6:00 with springs in my feet. Why was I excited? Well, not to make you envious or anything, but I went to Fall Creek Falls near Chattanooga. I cannot begin to spell out how excited I was yesterday to spend the day at Fall Creek Falls with my lovely boyfriend and his sister and 2 friends. 

It was a long car ride both to and from the falls. But it was totally worth it! I got to sit by my boyfriend, which made for an interesting day. It was't bad. I actually enjoyed his company, and for the chance to show to him that I am an outdoorsy girl and love to hick and walk, and that I can actually keep up with his bewildering "billy goat" pace.