seven secrets to sexual purity (part one)

{purity is a process}

Think what you want. Say what you want. Secrets? What secrets? Keep to yourself and that it will solve the problem; easier said than done. This is a day and age when purity is becoming something that people still talk about, but you don't see acting on.

It is a pretty straight forward concept—purity. The very idea behind purity is that, well, none of were born pure, but we fight everyday to keep what "purity" we do have. And for some of us the only purity we do have left is sexual purity because, well, none of us were born one hundred percent pure. Every day girls and guys fight the “evil desires of our youth” and are bombarded by lust and sexual attraction (2 Timothy 2:22).

Things can easily enter our minds and catch us off guard through the media. Though the media is a wonderful addition to our vast collection of knowledge and fancy gismos, it can also be our downfall, thwarting our perception and pulling us farther from the sexual purity God designed for us to experience before marriage. 

The seven secrets to purity may seem to you a little strange and unrealistic. But think of them not as rules, but as a strengthening tool. These secrets will serve to strengthen our understanding and firm our wavering foundation of purity, as well as reinforce our bond with Christ. We look to Him for guidance so that when we are confronted with the desire to stray from the straight and narrow path, we will be strong and unmoved in our faith and beliefs, especially as we go out into a world that presents sexuality to the youth as a pleasurable playtime, and not as a sin.

So, if you are wondering what the seven secrets are, take a look.

Secret #1: Acknowledge that purity is a process. No, it is not instant. Yes, it does take time; we were not born pure (and the Bride Wore White, 57). I know, what a shocker! Here’s some scripture to back up the fact that we were not born pure…take a look:

“Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me” (Psalm 51:5).

“All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23).

“There is not a righteous man on earth who does what is right and never sins” (Ecclesiastes 7:20).
We may have been “innocent” when we were born, but scripture says we were sinful, not pure. This belief that we can “loose” our purity is baloney. It is impossible, since we were never pure to begin with. Now, understand that what I mean by “you are not pure” simply means we are sinful. We were born sinful, we will live a sinful life, and we will all die because of our sins.  This does not mean you have lost your sexual purity. Do not worry!

Now, I want you to imagine a spiral on a grape vine. Imagine the spiral has a wiggly tail at the bottom.  This wiggly tail represents us before we came to know Christ as our Lord and Savior. The minute we give our life to the Lord and accept that he dies for us in payment of our sins, we begin the exciting journey towards becoming like Christ! This is the first step to becoming pure, because Christ is pure in every way! Without Christ, it is impossible to live a life of purity. We cannot do it on our own.


  1. I love this post! So much truth. I’m glad you’re hitting this topic, so many young women these days need to know that it’s ALRIGHT to wait.

  2. Hello, it’s me again. ha. I wanted to thank you for following my blog, and giving me the wonderful advice! Sometimes just staying positive about the whole situation is the only thing you can do, but it can turn your whole outlook around. I’ll also be praying for you. :) Thanks again!

  3. Great post Emily! Looking forward to reading the other ones! :)

  4. Hi Emily. Jeff & Marsha over at Looking forward to reading more of your thoughts on sexual purity. We regularly help individuals and couples struggling with sexual sin.

    Glad you're writing your thoughts on the subject.


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