Interview With Cadia Magazine

April 30, 2010

I am excited to announce that Megan has graciously honored us with an interview! Megan is an awesome writer, a beautiful Christian girl and is the founder of Cadia. Cadia is an online magazine where girls of all ages can come and learn more about Christ, while at the same time, have fun and fellowship with other believers. The vibe at Cadia is very warm and accepting. I am excited to read their first issue that is coming out this May, and I encourage you all to head over there (*wink-wink*) when you get the chance and check the place out! It's an amazing place to hang out and relax. 


Now, without further ado, I will let you read the amazing interview Q&A!

Emily: How about you tell us a little about yourself?



Megan: My name is Megan and I the 14 year old creator of Cadia magazine. I love to organize! Literally, I could find things in my room blind folded. :) I am also a dancer and am apart of my dance centers competitive dance team. I love reading my Bible, writing, photography, graphic design, reading, and more!


Emily: How did you come across the idea for Cadia magazine?


Megan: Well, ever since I was younger I have written newsletters, newspapers, small magazines, and books so things like Cadia is something I love to do.It all started in about August of 2009 (not many people have heard this part of the story :) ) when I felt this strange little tug on my heart about a Christian girls magazine. So I started looking on the Internet about magazines and such, then I dropped the idea. Fast forward to December 2009 when my Bible teacher asked us 5 things we would like to accomplish as teenagers. Immediately, the Christian girls magazine idea popped into my mind and I wrote that down. Christmas break came and I began writing out what could be in our magazine. coming up with a name, set up an e-mail and website, and more. Then I forgot about Cadia for a while until January when I started getting the word out and we came up with a team and began working on our first issue of the magazine.


Emily: What's the purpose/mission of the Cadia magazine?


Megan: 1. To encourage girls with their walk with Christ and teach them to glorify the Lord in all things they do and say.


2. To create a magazine which Christian girls all over the world will enjoy and share with their friends, sisters, and moms.


3. To give girls the determination to reach out and accomplish their dreams


Emily:  OK, we all want to know! What does Cadia stand for?


Megan: Cadia means "a place of peace".


Emily:  Would you mind giving us a sneak peak at Cadia's May issue? What are some of the highlights that the magazine will be featuring?


Megan: Sure! Here is a list of some of the things coming up in our May/June issue.


~Exclusive interview with Leslie Ludy


~Meet the Staff-Meet all of the amazing girls who make Cadia magazine happen!


~Real Life-Real Girl- A fun subscriber interview


~Mercy on My Mind- Devotional on showing mercy.


~Dear Lexi- A fun, Christian girls advice column


~Defining Purity God's Way- A devotional all about being pure for Christ.




Emily:  We want to know more about you, too! So, you are a firm believer in Christ. Awesome! Would you like to share with us how you came to know the Lord and what He’s doing in your life?

Megan: So my whole life I have been raised in a Christian environment. both of my parents are very strong Christians and love the Lord, we regularly attend church (we go every week but sometimes life happens where everyone is sick and you can't make it), I have gone to a Christian school my whole life, and I am active in Bible studies. It wasn't until January 29, 2010 that I became a true child of the Lord after years of thinking I was a child of Him. January 29th was a day when our school was having 2 guess speakers, twin football players of all people. Now, let me tell you, I don't understand football. My friends have tried to explain it many times, but being a person who learns by doing things, I can't actually  understand it until I do it. So the men started speaking and I heard a little voice in my head that I wasn't a Christian and needed to become a child of the Lord. I ignored the voice and continued listening. The voice came again a little later while the men were talking and once again I ignored it and continued listening. At the very end of the presentation, it was as if these guys were talking directly to me when they said, "If you have been battling with the Holy Spirit for the past hour about becoming a Christian and you have been ignoring it, accept Christ as your Lord and Savior now!" They had everyone close their eyes in prayer and I started crying. I'm not the crying type, but I was crying out of happiness and joy, because I knew in my heart I was now an official child of the Lord. 

Emily: What are some of your favorite hobbies?

Megan: Well, I love to dance and attend dance classes, I love photography, reading, writing, board games, and more. My new favorite hobby after starting the magazine is graphic design, although I am not the best at it I keep getting better!

Emily:  What type of music do you prefer to listen to (i.e., Christian, Rock, Country, etc.)?

Megan: I love listening to music! I am a huge fan of Christian, pop, and a little bit of country, but of coarse I make wise choices in what I listen to and I am very careful to pay attention to what the music is saying.

Emily: If God gave you the chance to be heard by every single person on this earth, what would you say to them?

Megan: I would tell them about Christ. :)

Emily:  Since you are the founder of Cadia Magazine, does this mean you like to write? If so, what’s the best part about writing/being an author? 

Megan: I love writing! The best part about being a writer for Cadia magazine is that now my writing is going to be published in the magazine for hundreds of girls to see!

Emily:  What's your "life" verse from the Bible? Can you tell us what it means to you and why you chose this verse?

Megan: My life verse is Philippians 2:15, "So that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe." To me, this verse means that since I am a child of God, I need to be a light to others and lead them to Christ. We do live in a crooked and depraved generation, and by being lights and shining for Christ, we can make a difference in this world for Him!

Emily: Everyone has a favorite book! So what’s your favorite book?

Megan: I love Little Women! It is my favorite book ever!


Emily: What are some exciting places you've been?
Megan: I have been to lots of amazing places, but when I read exciting, I immediately thought of Atlanta, Georgia because we always have an exciting experience at the air port their. I have never been in that air port for more than 15 minutes because we always have another flight to catch their AFTER our first plane ride. Usually the 15 minutes in the airport is spent running to make it to our next flight. :)

Emily:  What’s your favorite book of the Bible? Why?

Megan: My favorite book of the Bible is Philippians because I always learn something new from it and the Holy Spirit always speaks to me in different ways through it. My life verse is even from Philippians


Emily: Final question: Who would you say has been the best friend in your entire life – out of them all? :)

Megan: I am not sure if this best friend would want me to use her real name online, so I am going to call her by the nickname she was given in second grade, George. We have been best friends since 2nd grade and we are at the point were she can tell if I am upset or know what I am thinking just by looking at my face and I am not very dramatic. She is always their for me and I tell her everything!


Thank you so much, Megan for allowing me to interview you. I look forward to reading Cadia's first issue and watching your magazine grow and flourish. :)

Embrace the Present

April 29, 2010


"You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present."~Jan Glidewell
We cling to the past as if it defines who we are. Let go of all that has happened (the dad, guilt, grudges, etc.)and go forth with a pure spirit and a joyful smile. Hanging on to the past only makes us tired and makes it difficult to enjoy the present, and dream about the future. Enjoy life, so let go of the past and embrace the beauty of the present and the promise of the future!                     

Praise the Lord!

April 23, 2010



Psalms 150:6 says, “Let everything that has breath praise the Lord. Praise the Lord!”


Shouting from a mountain top: Lord, today I will praise yo with all of my heart. With all of my soul. With all of my strenght. There is no one like you, Lord. You are good. You are love. You are my comfort. My friend. My hope. My Redeemer! I will praise your name, for you are God. I will proclaim your name to the world. I am the arrow and you are the target. Use me. Guide me. Mold me. I am yours. You are God!
Amen

Happy Earth Day

April 22, 2010

What a blessing God has given us to live on a planet perfectly created to meet our needs. The beauty that springs forth from the planet earth is a reminder to us all that God is the author of creation. The King of the universe and the greatest, most gifted artist to ever walk the face of the earth. The work of other artists do not come close to capturing the beauty that God has provided for us, not even a picture truly captures the divine grace and simplicity of God's creation.


Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It is also in the craftsmanship of Christ. Just think how much time he put into every last detail of his creation! How miraculously splendid it is to know  that he cares that much about us, that he took the time and effort to make his creation one-of-a-kind. A masterpiece.


I don't celebrate "Earth Day" as a means of celebrating the earth and all that it provides for us. Because without God, how could the earth do all the things it does? It couldn't. Earth day comes once a year. But as Christians, we should celebrate it all year long...not in worship of the earth, but of the amazing Lord and Savior who created such a place for us to live. There is no other planet quite like earth. There's no place like home.


But for now, we will have to be content in living here on earth, dwelling in it'simplicity, it's vibrant colors, freshness and beauty. Thank God he didn't create a world that was nothing but Black and White. That would be so dull!

The Honorable Imposter by Gilbert Morris

April 20, 2010

Most of you may not know this, but I am hopelessly hooked on the House of Winslow Series by Gilbert Morris! I learned about these books from my Grandma, who happens to have read all of his books (how she did it I don't know!).

I felt drawn to this series because it's a Historical/Christian/Romance series that offered the best of both words: the message of Jesus Christ integrated into a captivating Historical romance. And as most of you know, I am a sucker for anything romantic.

After listening to my Grandma go on-and-on about Gilbert Morris's books, I decided to look into getting myself the first book From the House of Winslow Series: The Honorable Imposter. 


The Honorable Imposter's theme is set in the 1620s. The book tells the history of the coming of the Pilgrims to the New World, and the trials and tribulations they faced during that first year in America. The book had everything a reader could ever dream of: adventure, romance, nail-biting, tear-jerking plot twists, and completely accurate historical events tied into the story lines.

The main character, Gilbert Winslow, a tall man with blond hair and cornflower blue eyes, is hired by Lord North to find and turn in William Brewster, the leader of the Puritans. Gilbert Winslow finds it impossible to turn in the man he has grown to love. He then finds himself unwillingly on the Mayflower headed toward the New World, a new world he wasn't prepared for.

Gilbert runs from God time and again from this book. An independent, strong man like himself didn't need a God, besides, he was tired of having the message of God shoved down his throat by his relentless father. However, after fighting, running and refusing to surrender his life over to the Heavenly Father, Gilbert finally finds the peace that only God can give. He then discovers something he had never fully realized: his love for a young woman, a woman who never thought she would ever find true love, a woman that was God ordained soul mate. Together they rejoice in the happiness they find together and in the sovereign peace they found with the Lord.

Gilbert Morris does a fantastic job in writing The Honorable Imposter, weaving his characters and integrating the history of our nation into a captivating, inspiring, moving book centered around Christ and his willingness to accept a wretch like Gilbert Winslow who had turned his back on God, only to return to find God's outstretched hand waiting for him.

This book is third person, past tense.


Pros:

It combines romance, history and God into one action packed book centered on the forgiving and loving nature of Christ.

Cons:

I can't think of anything I didn't like.But it was slow at first.


Objectionable Content:

Language: None

Romance: Yes, there was kissing scenes. But nothing revealing.

Violence: Some mild description of war-related violence

I would rate this book 5 stars and recommend it for ages 13 + up.

I am a writer

April 17, 2010

In my room I sit alone, writing the stories of my life, my heart, and my secrets. All of which, ooze for the depths of my imagination. At my desk light breaks through the open windows. As the breeze makes the linen curtains dance wildly about my head, their fluttering motions infiltrate my imagination, sculpting visions and scenes.

There is something so irresistible about this wholesome art, that it makes my heart soar. As my fingers move over the typewriter-keys, the commotion of their rapid tap-tap consumes every fiber of my body, as I watch my visions come to life in the words proliferated onto the seemingly endless world... known as my story.

In my writings, I sail to a world undiscovered, a land of enchantment and discovery. I wonder how I got there and where I am. At first, I am scared to stray too far from the shore, unaware of what dangers and adventures lie beyond the sandy beaches of my dreams. Yet, just as soon as fear has consumed me, it leaves, and the urge to explore the hidden features of this strange new land take me on a journey into the unknown.

Upon my exploration into this uncharted territory, I find an enchanted forest with trees as tall as the sky, flowers as big as the moon and tiny characters just waiting to be named. Their culture and race is unfamiliar to me, they have yet to be given an identity in which they can be categorized. They are gray and black, their personality as dry as sandpaper and their features as bland as unseasoned rice.

Sitting on a stump peculiarly carved into a comfortable chair, I think about what to do with these characters, they are blank slates just waiting to be given life. I want to do them justice, to make them believable, lovable and independent. I worry, for if they are not named well, and if they are not described well, how will they speak to those who enter this world of mine? Will I dutifully described them to the best of my ability so that my readers will recognize them? And if they cannot, then my quest would have been in vain. I will have failed. But, if I name them well, and give them a story, then perhaps my readers will enter in and feel at home, and my world will become their world and we will both have gained.

As I take up my pen and paper, I become the ringmaster: making sure the acts of my story attract an eager audience. Pecking on the typewriter keys and listening to their melancholy rhythm, I become the cook: slaving away in the kitchen of my overactive imagination, creating new and delicious dishes that I have fabricated from the ingredients stored in the deep cellar of my heart and soul. Upon traveling my mind, I become a carpenter and a magician: dreaming something into being where nothing has ever existed before and building the foundation of my story from the bricks and mortar of my imagination.

I am a dreamer, a hopeless romantic, and an aspiring author. I arm myself against the desperate times that try a writer's soul by praying and reading books that spark my imagination and gets my creativity soaring. By writing, I have discovered a new person, someone who really has always been there, but never fully realized. Just by looking inside and exploring the depths of my soul, I have found her—the writer in me. That's who I am; she's what I've become. I am that person who is endlessly consumed in the thoughts, ideas and the creation of words. I am a free thinker. I am a writer.

Being Real : A Purity Challenge

April 16, 2010

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting" (e.e. cummings, 1955).
I love this quote. So many times I have done research for teen pregnancy, run across a TV show or some other form of entertainment, where there is always someone pressuring someone else to conform to having sex. And those who have been pressured usually give in to be like everyone else...because everyone else is 'doing it'.


Being real to me reflects who we are as individuals. We shouldn't have to change that in order to be accepted. We weren't made to be robots walking around with a teen guy on one hip and a baby on the other. At least not at 16! Let's be real, no one ever truly wants to be real with themselves. Why? Because we are afraid of what others might think of us. 


But let's be realistic here shall we? No one really cares. So, why should you care about what others may think? You'll probably never even see them again, so why let that change you? Another good quote is this:
"God has given you one face, and you make yourself another" (William Shakespeare).
God didn't make us who we are, so that we can trade ourselves in like a used car. We aren't meant to have sex outside of marriage. I believe that when we are real with ourselves, we have the chance to get to know who we are inside and out. We get the change to understand the person God made us to be. 


And with help from out Heavenly Father, we can stick to the straight and narrow path, live a life committed to purity and when we finally give ourselves away, we'll be one of the few who will be able to say: "I waited for you".


Believe it or not, I used to be ashamed to say that I was living a life of purity. I was embarrassed to let anyone know that I was one of those "spiritual" girls that chose to life according to God's plan and not my own. 


I was afraid of what people would think of me. Would they think of me as some freak with unrealistic notions of love? Would they think I was loony and stick me in the solitary confinement for the rest of my life? Would my friends disown me because I chose to be different and chose the path of anti-conformity over the other route?
 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it” (Matthew 7:13).

I learned that it's easier to hide than it is to be that light. I had to get real. I mean, what was I scared of? What were they going to do to me other than laugh at me and never be my friend again? I could live with that. I didn't need friends that wouldn't support me in my pursuit to remain sexually pure. In Romans 12:2, it tells us to not conform to the ways of the world. We should want to live our life for God and not for the world:
“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

However, after growing up a bit, I am not afraid to let anyone know that I am saving my heart, body and soul for the person God has in store for me. Whenever I get the chance, I tell those around me. If I could, I'd shout it from a mountain top!


At first, it was hard to be "real" with myself and with God. But by being real, I am able to share my passion for being sexually pure. It's my mission, my life-long goal to educate others on the wonderful journey we take when we choose to wait for that perfect God ordained person to walk into our lives. The rewards are endless, the trials more intense, but in the long run the match will be literally made in heaven and the bond firmly planted in our Solid Rock--Jesus Christ.


My Cinderella story is waiting. And I am waiting for my prince charming. If people think I am weird, then I am proud of it. If people say I am a fool, then I tell them, "I may be a fool, but I am a fool for God." I may be weak, but with Jesus I am strong. 

“Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:13-14).
Be real with yourself and never be afraid to be different. You are special, unique and have a wonderful life ahead of you if you choose to wait, instead of going with the flow. Dare to be yourself. Dare to embrace who you are in Christ. Dare to live. Dare to be different. Dare to be pure.

Re: Teens and Peer Pressure

April 8, 2010

Hello!

I agree with almost all of that post, except for the talking to an adult. It does sound like a good idea, I will give you that. But being a teen myself, I, as mentioned, turn to my friends, not my parents. I trust my friends more than I trust my parents and my friends know more about me than my parents do! So many people say, "Go to a trusted adult." but the thing is that no one ever does. We don't like sharing our thoughts with older people, the thought to me is repulsive. Not that I have ANYTHING wrong with older people, my favorite cousins are 25-35. But I just don't like having older people that I don't KNOW know about my "problems" so to speak. I don't like the fact that someone outside of my family would know about my life outside of school or wherever I see them.

That's how I see it at least.

~Erin

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Dearest Erin,

First of all, I would like to let you know that I am so glad you stopped by my blog! I enjoy getting visitors. It makes my day to log into Blogger and see that someone has commented on something that I’ve posted. Thanks.

Second of all, I want to let you know that I admire you for voicing your own opinion. It's usually not an easy thing to do. Anyhow, I think it’s a good thing you are able to speak up about something you believe in and think is right, regardless of what others may think. Kudos to you!

I understand that most teens turn to their friends for support and advice, it’s not like it’s a bad thing. God gave us friends for a reason. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, it talks about the importance of having friends you can trust and rely on.

But is that enough? I mean, what's the point in having parents if all we ever do is confide in our friends when we have a problem? Do you really believe that teens the same age as us are going to be able to give us wise counsel on issues they themselves haven't even faced yet?

Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to condemn you for talking to your friends and trusting them more that you would your own parents. Every teen does that, even me! It's a natural part of life to go to your friends rather than your parents. However, there are times when no amount of friendly advice can come close to what a mom or dad can give to us.

Why do you feel this way, Erin? Why are you so opposed to keeping your life from your parents? These are only questions, so please don't feel offended. I only want to know why you feel as if you cannot share your feelings with a "trusted adult".

 Don't ever feel that what you have to say is not worthy of your parents time, they want to know what's going on, so that they can help you grow and learn. We may be teens and have friends that we can go to when we need help or advice, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that our friends are wise enough to be giving advice on issues that require the knowledge of someone who’s been-there-and-done-that.

You don't have to tell other adults about your problems. I don't either. No other adult but my parents needs to know my business. It's confidential...a trusting relationship/bond that only parents and their child should share.

Erin, don’t exclude your parents. They were teens once, too. You parents, as well as mine, have made mistakes in their lives that have shaped them into the people they are today. Not only that, but because they made those mistakes and because they care about us, they are willing to share those experiences with us in hopes to save us from making the same mistakes in the future.

In turn, we need to be willing to listen, to understand that our parents, (however annoying and old-fashioned, condemning, untrusting, relentless and controlling they may seem), only want what's best for us - to give us the tools we need to make better, healthier decisions in life.

Just like God is our spiritual guide, our parents are our physical guides. Not our friends. So, don’t take your parents for granted. They give better advice that you think, even if it may be outdated, much of it still applies to you today.

Don’t get me wrong, my parents are there for me, they provide for me with the things I need until I am able to do those things on my own, but what other purposes do parents have besides making sure we’ve got everything we need? You may find this funny, but they are so much more than just our caretakers, they are also our friends.

Call me old-fashioned, but my mom and dad are my best friends. They may be humans and less than perfect, but they have taught me valuable lessons, and most importantly about God. They are there for me when I need a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold. And when I am in a spiritual battle; God, my mom and dad are my wise counsel. They were there for me to learn from.

 Forgive me if I am wrong, but it seems to me that you don't seem to have a deep connection or a trusting bond with your parents. How much time do you actually spend with your parents? Anytime you and your parents aren't busy is a good time to talk. It doesn't have to be personal, not unless you want it to be. Track the amount of time you actually spend with your parents.

Is it enough? Maybe you need to take the initiative and spend more time with them, to get to know them and learn to trust them...not only as your parents, but as your trusted friends as well.

If you and your parents don't have a good relationship, then by talking you can slowly build a trusting relationship with them. And once you feel as though you can trust your parents, tell them how you feel, what's on your mind and ask them for advice.

It's what they're there for! They'll help you because they love you deeply. Don't deny them the satisfaction of helping you to grow and mature into a beautiful person. And don't deny yourself of that gratifying family time - that time of development, learning and becoming.

Give it a try. You never know if you never try.

I'll be praying for you, Erin. I may be making this out to be a bigger problem that it really is, but when a teen doesn't want their parents to know what's going on in their lives, it breaks my heart. I just want to give you a big 'ole hug!

In Christ,
Emily

Teens and Peer Pressure

April 5, 2010

Have you ever been faced with pressure to be perfect, or do something you knew was wrong just to fit in? Every teen will experience pressure that will overwhelm and upset them; and the way each teen reacts to pressure depends on their own personal understanding. During the adolescent years teens are more likely to seek the opinion and acceptance of their friends rather than their parents. Peer pressure has the power to influence a teenager’s views, activities and life.


Teens are pressure by their peers to look good. Pressure can affect a lot of teens who are self-conscious about certain aspects of their body; they tend to struggle with their body image because they are uncomfortable with the changes that are occurring in their bodies as they go through puberty. As the body grows and matures, some parts of the body tend to fill out more quickly than others, causing major pressure and anxiety as teens compare their bodies to other teens that have more developed features.


All girls develop differently; some have their periods sooner, have bigger bosoms, slim bodies and perfect skin. Unfortunately, some girls aren’t so lucky. Instead of smooth skin, they have horrible acne or dry skin; they tend to be chubbier, and are often known as “late bloomers”.


Guys often develop later than girls, but when they do develop, height, muscle structure and weight are very important. Unlike guys who have the perfect body, height, and weight—guys who are short, puny or overweight have a difficult time during puberty because of the constant teasing and body image issues. All this pressure on teens about how their bodies should look is unnecessary; it is important to realize that there are some things about our bodies that cannot be changes. Whether teens have chubby fingers, big feet or acne on their faces, they shouldn’t be concerned about what other teens think about them—it is not about what’s on the outside that should count, but the genuine character of the person on the inside.


In today’s world, teens face overwhelming pressure to be part of the “in crowd”. For teens, fitting in may be as simple as having the latest cell phone, coolest jeans or the right friends. But the struggle doesn’t end with the cell phones and jeans—it goes to the extreme of having sex or doing other sexual things before they are physically and mentally ready.


Stop and think for a minute about what TV, movie and the Internet are really teaching teens. These forms on entertainment not only educate teens on what’s going on in the world but entertainment is also teaching teens that it is ok to have sex before marriage. The TV, movies and the Internet, however, do not give the full story behind sex. Entertainment only gives you half of the story, giving you the fun and excitement, tempting you to “try it just once”. Sex may seem exciting, but you don’t often hear about what happens after sex. What’s the other half of the story? The other side of the story isn’t fun nor is it exciting.


On TV you are likely to see commercials advertising shots to prevent STDs. STDs, also known as sexual transmitted diseases are infections that you can get from having sex with someone who has the disease. “There are more than 20 different STDs, including Herpes Simplex, HIV/AIDS, HPV, and Chlamydia.” (“Sexually Transmitted Diseases”).


After having sex, the teen will most likely be hurt emotionally— left with the feeling of rejection and the knowledge that their partner used them to get a “free trial run”, or a “refill” or the sex he or she craved.


Not only was the person used and possibly given and STD, but the girl involved will have to deal with the burden and pressure of being pregnant. For girls, chances of getting pregnant are slim if they use the pill, AKA: birth control. But that alone doesn’t mean the girl will not get pregnant. And for the guy who happened to get the girl pregnant, he either have to marry her or pay her child support, and live with the regret that he ruined the girl’s chances of a happy future.


Believe it or not, it is okay to not have sex; it is better to wait. And if you wait, you’ll be avoiding a lifetime of pain, regret, STDs and a possible child. Teens feel that in order to be popular or likes be the opposite gender, they must be willing to be sexually active. Writer Michael Lemonick states that, “more than 54% of kids’ ages 15 to 19 say that they have engaged on oral sex at least once.” (64). The scary thing about teens and sex, is that the age in which teens begin having sex gets younger and younger.


Does the pressure ever ease up? When teens are dealing with poor body image and the pressure to do things that they aren’t ready for, they often resort to harming themselves to ease the pressure and the pain. People with a negative body image resort to crash diets, bingeing, cutting, and committing suicide in order find some relief. “Adolescents, who have low self-esteem, are highly self-critical, and who feel little sense of control over negative events are particularly at risk to become depressed when they experience stressful events,” says writer Jami Jones. Magazines and TV have a lot to do with how teenagers see themselves. Their perception of their body is made worse with runway models, actors and actresses with slim bodies, flawless skin and bulging muscles. With these unrealistic and unhealthy realities, no wonder our teens are struggling to accept who they are as individuals.


Teens struggling with the pressure to have sex also battle depression. They feel that once they’ve had the sex that there is no other way to solve their problems—no way to get out, so they resort to other ways like suicide. The Mental Health of America says that teens often, “feel so depressed that they consider ending their lives. Each year almost 5,000 young people, ages 15 to 19 kill themselves. The rate of suicide for this age group has nearly tripled since 1960, making it the third leading cause of death in adolescence and the second cause of death among college-age youth.” (“Depression in Teens”).


With struggling with peer pressure and a negative body image—talking time to talk to a trusted adult about issues is a way teens can overcome whatever they are dealing with. It is important to keep a good flow of communication between the teen and the adult who can help, so the teen can have a person to go to when feeling pressured. Teens who struggle with peer pressure and a negative body image need to realize that no one is perfect; everyone makes mistakes, and no one has the perfect body. Instead of teens dwelling over the mistakes they have made, or how many “flaws” their body seems to have; they should try to identify their personal, God given strengths and build on them.


Everyone struggles with who they are and what they’ve done, but teens need to realize that life isn’t over because they have made a mistake or aren’t perfect. Peer pressure has the power to influence a teenager’s views, actions and life, but we have the power to overcome that power and think and act for ourselves.




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