Among the bright display of wedding gifts sat one misshaped box. The box sported smudged finger prints, and it’s once wholesome white paper was now wrinkled and torn from the numerous times is had been wrapped and rewrapped. The box even looked like someone had stepped on it once or twice. The names on the tag had been crossed out several times, and finally the grooms name was placed over the others. The present in the box was once beautiful and pure, now it lay soiled, tattered and broken.
It Never Used To Be Like This
Once the present had been pure and perfect, too beautiful and precious to be purchased with money, it had
been intended to not only attract the husband, but to also strengthen the marriage— making the two into one. The Father had given the gift to the bride to hand off to her beloved on their wedding day. Her Father warned her to guard the gift with her heart and soul, “Do not open this gift until I have introduced you to your beloved. Wait until I have given you my blessing on your wedding day.” The Father had said to the bride. However, the bride’s need to be loved, the pressure to fit in, and the fear of missing out, caused the bride to open the gift and offer it to the first boy who gave her with the slightest attention. “It’ll be just fine,” she reasoned with herself, “I’ll marry this guy someday.” But it didn’t work out between them. He moved on. And the bride grew sad, the gift was torn, and when the chance for happiness came again, she opened her gift and offered it.
What A Gift!
Over a period of time, the once pure gift had become a broken, disheveled promise of hope, happiness and love. Thinking back on what her Father had told her— the bide knew what she had done was wrong. She decided to put it aside and wait. One day the bride met her beloved, and he was everything she had ever hoped for. “I have a beautiful gift for you,” he told her. “My Father gave it to me to save for our wedding night. I long to open it for you now, but it will be worth the wait.” The bride hid her tears as he spoke. She went weeping before her Father with her strained and battered gift. “Forgive me. I am so sorry that have given away my gift before you have chosen my groom. Can you give me a new one? I wouldn’t dare give my groom this broken gift.”The Father looked at the bride and smiled sadly and took the gift in his hands.
“There was a reason for my warning, but I want to you know I will always love you. My child, I can make you whole again, but I cannot make your gift whole again.”So the bide put her tattered gift on the wedding table, trusting the Father would help her husband find her gift as perfect as the one she would receive.
Our Crumbled Up World
Today’s culture pushes sexuality at every turn. The clothes we wear, commercials, movies, songs, and the internet glorify sex as a normal part of dating. God didn’t intend for sex to be used in a belittling, shameful way. In 2 Corinthians 6:18 He tells us to flee immortality for a good reason. God gave us our sexuality to use as a wedding present to bless our marriage, not to give away or use as a play toy. Once our gift is unwrapped and tampered with, it can never be what it once was—it’s broken and soiled. When we live outside God’s plan for sex, we find ourselves reaping the consequences of our actions.
Sometimes we are lucky to just walk away with a broken heart and a lowered self-worth; other times we become cynical or insensitive towards men. More than a dozen young women are raising children on their own, because they didn’t wait for the man God chose for them. However, you probably don’t know that dozens of young women are reaping the physical effects of their decisions such as STIs [sexually transmitted Infections], infertility, or worse STDs [sexually transmitted diseases: AIDS and Hepatitis C.
Listen, if you have a pledge of purity keep it! And if you have given away your wedding gift before your wedding night, know that God doesn’t take away the consequences of your sin, but He will make you whole again. God is the giver of everything good. We have to trust that He’ll make everything worth the wait.